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Welcome to Un-Enmesh
A space to finally hear
your voice again.
If you’ve spent years prioritizing others over yourself, feeling invisible or unsure where you end and they begin, your’e not too much, and your’e not alone. Our trauma-informed team of coaches and survivors created a program that helps you return to who you truly are, with clarity and care.
What Is Enmeshment?
Enmeshment happens when your emotions, thoughts, and sense of self become wrapped up in someone else’s—so tightly that it’s hard to distinguish where you end and they begin. Imagine a bowl of spaghetti, all twisted together. That’s what it can sometimes feel like when your life revolves around someone else’s mood or approval.
You start believing that their feelings matter more than yours. Maybe you tiptoe around them to avoid upsetting them. Or you feel responsible for keeping them happy because if you don’t, they’ll be disappointed, angry, or even leave.
It’s kind of like being in the middle of something you love and then dropping everything because someone else is having a bad day. Eventually, you will lose sight of what you enjoy, how you feel, or what you need, because your focus is always on them.
In adult relationships, enmeshment can show up as:
- Constantly worrying about what a partner or parent thinks of you
- Feeling guilty for doing things just for yourself
- Struggling to name your wants and needs
- Believing love means saving or fixing others
- Letting someone else’s emotions control your own
What Enmeshment Isn’t:
- It’s not love that honors you and your needs
- It’s not healthy closeness with space for both people to breathe
- It’s not caring for someone while staying grounded in who you are
Why It Matters
When you’re stuck in enmeshment, you lose connection with yourself. You start living to keep the peace, rather than living from your truth. Over time, it chips away at your confidence, drains your energy, and leaves you feeling unseen. You begin to believe your needs aren’t important, but they are. Deeply.
How Un-Enmesh Can Help:
We help you gently reconnect with yourself.
You’ll learn how to:
Step 1
Recognize when you're prioritizing others at the cost of yourself
Step 2
Set kind, firm boundaries—without guilt
Step 3
Trust your voice and choices
Step 4
Speak up about what you need
Step 5
Build relationships where you're valued for who you are, not just what you do.
The Bottom Line
Enmeshment feels like you’ve blurred the lines between your life and someone else’s. At Un-Enmesh, we help you find clarity, reconnect with yourself, and create the kind of love that doesn’t ask you to disappear
About Un-Enmesh
Untangling 'We' to Find 'Me'
We help people rediscover who they are—beyond roles, expectations, and blurred emotional lines. Whether in love, family, or work, we support you in reclaiming emotional independence and identity—with compassion, not blame.
What We Believe
Awareness sets you free
Boundaries protect connection
Healing thrives with support
Your worth is not negotiable
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12-Week Program
Because healing isn’t one-size-fits-all, we offer three levels of support to meet you exactly where you are, whether you're just starting to untangle or are ready to dive deeper.
TRUST Package
- $225/PER MONTH
A steady start to reclaiming your self-trust
- One 45-minute 1:1 coaching call
- Full access to our 12-Week Enmeshment Recovery Course
- Daily check-ins via text, email, or our coaching platform for 12 weeks
Ideal for individuals starting their un-enmeshment journey and seeking structured support with a gentle approach in overcoming enmeshment while setting short-term personal and professional goals
RISE Package
- $375/per month
Expanded support for more profound healing and reconnection
- Two 45-minute 1:1 coaching calls
- Full access to our 12-Week Enmeshment Recovery Course
- Daily check-ins for 24 weeks via text, email, or our coaching platform
- Lifetime access to our private graduate Facebook group
- 20% discount off all courses published by Un-Enmesh staff during the course and 10% after course completion
- A graduation certificate upon completion of the course
Ideal for anyone craving consistency, deeper insight, and more space to process and grow. We’ll also focus on short and long-term personal and professional goals.
EMERGE Package
$525/per montH
Our most comprehensive path for sustained transformation and liberation from enmeshment
- Four 45-minute 1:1 coaching calls
- Full access to our 12-Week Enmeshment Recovery Course
- Daily check-ins (voice, email, or text) for 48 weeks
- Lifetime access to our private graduate Facebook group
- Free access to all of our courses written by our team while you’re enrolled in the course, and a 25% discount on courses published after course completion
- A graduation certificate upon completion of the course
- A thoughtful graduation gift to celebrate your journey
For the individual ready to do the work, who is tired of shrinking and prepared to reclaim their wholeness. This package also includes in-depth support for personal and professional goal setting.
The Program
The Un-Enmesh Method: Awareness. Boundaries. Reconnection. Reclaiming
Learn to spot patterns, set boundaries, and reconnect with your truth
What You’ll Recieve
Live coaching
Self-paced course
Journal prompts
Lifetime access
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Stories from the Journey
I was 19 when we got together, barely out of high school and barely in my own skin.
I fell in love with my first girlfriend in math class, head over heels as I peeked at her from behind my algebra
Client Testimonials
Before UnEnmesh, I didn’t know who I was. I spent years living for other people—thinking it was love, while slowly losing myself. After a painful betrayal, I realized I couldn’t keep going like that.
UnEnmesh helped me come back to myself. With support and real tools, I found my voice, set boundaries, and chose peace.
For the first time in my life… I feel free.
The moment I said ‘no’ without apologizing, I knew something in me had shifted. That was the UnEnmesh magic.
Before the program, I didn’t even realize how often I gave myself away just to keep the peace. UnEnmesh helped me see the patterns, understand where they came from, and start changing them—one boundary at a time.
Now, I don’t just say ‘no’—I mean it, and I don’t feel guilty about it
Before UnEnmesh, I didn’t even know I was allowed to have boundaries. I thought being a good daughter, partner, or friend meant saying yes—even when it hurt me.
Through the coaching, I learned that boundaries aren’t walls—they’re clarity and self-respect.
Now, I hold them with grace, without guilt, and I finally feel like I’m living life on my terms.
The daily Voxer check-ins were like little lifelines. Just knowing I could reach out and be heard made such a difference.
Even on my hardest days, I never felt alone. That kind of support—honest, steady, and human—is something I didn’t know I needed until I had it
Frequently Asked Questions
What is trauma-informed life coaching
Trauma-informed coaching means we understand how trauma can shape your behaviors, boundaries, and sense of self. We won’t ask you to bypass your pain or push through it. Instead, we meet you where you are—with compassion, curiosity, and practical tools.
We won’t process your trauma—that’s the work of therapy. But we will consider your past experiences as we help you move forward, build boundaries, and reconnect with your voice
How are your coaches different from other life coaches?
Our coaches have lived in an enmeshment. They know what it’s like to feel trapped in someone else’s emotions, to carry guilt for having needs, to lose yourself completely.
They’re also trained, trauma-informed, and deeply compassionate. Each coach brings a blend of lived experience, emotional insight, and actionable support. You’ll feel seen, understood, and safe as you do this work, without judgment or pressure.
How does enmeshment coaching work?
Enmeshment coaching helps you untangle from unhealthy emotional entanglements—whether with a parent, partner, or someone else in your life. With daily check-ins, supportive tools, and a coach who truly gets it, you’ll learn how to:
- Identify enmeshment patterns
- Set and maintain healthy boundaries
- Soothe the guilt that comes with saying no
- Reconnect with who you are and what you want
For some, this might include creating distance or going no-contact. For others, it’s about learning how to stay connected without losing one’s sense of self. There’s no one-size-fits-all path. What matters most is that you feel emotionally safe and free to be yourself.
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