Untangling
‘We’ to Find ‘Me’
Because losing yourself in someone else isn’t love—it’s enmeshment
Our Mission
At Un-Enmesh, we help people rediscover who they are beneath the roles, responsibilities, and emotional expectations placed on them.
Whether you’re struggling in a romantic relationship, within your family dynamic, or at work, we support you in reclaiming your emotional independence and identity.
Our approach isn’t about blame—it’s about liberation. With honesty, care, and lived wisdom, we help you reconnect with yourself.
Why We Exist
You’re not broken. You’re not dramatic. And you're not alone.
Enmeshment occurs when your emotional boundaries become blurred, and someone else’s feelings seem more important than your own. Over time, you lose sight of where you end and they begin.
Un-Enmesh exists to help you recognize this pattern—and untangle from it with clarity, confidence, and care.
What We Believe
Awareness sets you free
Boundaries protect connection
Healing thrives with support
Your worth is not negotiable
Real Stories, Real Impact
"This work isn’t just about leaving toxic patterns—it’s about coming home to yourself. I didn’t expect to feel this powerful again."
"I thought I had to keep everyone else happy to feel safe. Un-Enmesh showed me a better way—and for the first time in years, I trust myself."
Who We Are
Un-Enmesh is a collective of coaches, writers, and real people who have lived through the chaos of enmeshment—and found the way out.
Our founder, writing under the pen name Raine Everly, created this space after years of personal work. What started as one woman’s story is now a team effort—a shared mission to help others untangle with compassion, truth, and unwavering presence.
Meet Your Coaches
This is a space held by people who’ve walked through the fog themselves.
At Un-Enmesh, we don’t just teach healing—we live it. Our coaches have been through the tangled, invisible knots of enmeshment. They’ve sat with the silence of lost identity, the ache of over-giving, the anxiety of constantly tending to everyone else. Each of them has done the messy, beautiful work of reuniting with their truth. And now, they help others do the same.
This isn’t about fixing. This is about remembering. Rebuilding. Returning.
Raine E
Founder & Lead Trauma-Informed Relationship Coach
Raine grew up in a home where emotions were managed but rarely spoken. Survival meant staying small, agreeable, and useful. From a young age, she became the emotional sponge—the one who soothed conflicts and made sure others were okay. That pattern carried into adulthood, manifesting in friendships built on over-giving and relationships where love felt conditional upon self-sacrifice.
A season of deep burnout became a turning point, bringing exhaustion, invisibility, and the realization that she had lost connection with her own voice. Through personal reflection, coaching, and years of somatic exploration, Raine began the work of reconnecting to her identity, body, and needs.
Today, her coaching is rooted in emotional safety, boundary restoration, and attachment-aware support. Raine believes healing doesn’t require reliving the past—it begins by reclaiming your present and learning to trust your inner voice.
Clients describe her presence as calm, steady, and deeply validating—like exhaling for the first time in years. She creates spaces where guilt softens, patterns shift, and your true self—tender, powerful, and whole—can begin to re-emerge.
Raine founded Un-Enmesh to create the kind of support she once needed—a space that’s practical, compassionate, and rooted in the belief that you don’t have to lose yourself to love others. Through Un-Enmesh, she helps others rebuild self-trust and create relationships that no longer come at the cost of their identity.
AJ Murillo
Trauma-informed coach, writer and emotional psychology expert
AJ Murillo is a trauma-informed coach, writer, and expert in emotional psychology with a profound understanding of the human psyche. Her work goes far beyond theory—she has lived through the painful reality of narcissistic abuse and enmeshment herself. Through years of intense self-inquiry, research, and emotional excavation, she became a master of the relationship between the psyche and emotion—not just to heal herself, but to guide others to do the same.
AJ Murillo is the author of The Beginner’s Guide to Ego Death and a sought-after voice for those ready to break free from cycles of emotional entrapment. Her coaching is centered on emotional clarity, self-reclamation, and deep inner transformation. Clients often say that her insights reflect truths they’ve felt but never had the words for. With a unique gift for illuminating what lies beneath the surface, she doesn’t just help people cope—she helps them awaken.
Jasmine C
Trauma Informed/Enmeshment Recovery Coach
Jasmine knows what it feels like to go invisible inside your own life. Raised in a family where love was earned through over-functioning, she became the reliable one—the emotional translator, the helper, the person who always said yes. But by her 20s, her body and spirit had had enough.
Her turning point came during a quiet moment, when someone finally asked, “When was the last time you wanted something just for you?” That question opened the door to years of reflection, self-reconnection, and learning to honor her own needs.
Today, Jasmine blends structured, heart-centered coaching with grounding tools and emotional clarity practices. She specializes in supporting empaths and over-givers who are ready to stop shrinking and start showing up fully.
Her sessions are steady, nurturing, and grounded in insight. She helps clients reconnect with their voice, set meaningful boundaries, and rebuild a healthy relationship with their own needs and desires. Her approach includes simple, actionable strategies that support nervous system balance and empowered decision-making.
Jasmine joined Un-Enmesh because she believes no one should have to choose between connection and authenticity. Her mission is to help others break free from people-pleasing patterns and live with more clarity, courage, and self-trust.
Michael R
Trauma Informed Recovery Coach
Michael’s story is rooted in loyalty—loyalty to family, tradition, and roles that asked him to carry more than his share. From a young age, he felt responsible for managing the emotional atmosphere—reading moods, diffusing tension, and quietly fixing problems before they exploded. By adulthood, he looked successful on the outside but felt emotionally hollow on the inside.
His turning point came not with a breakthrough, but with a breakdown. After years of prioritizing others’ emotions over his own, Michael began his personal healing journey—unraveling the belief that love must come at a cost and slowly rebuilding a life grounded in agency, emotional freedom, and authentic connection.
Today, Michael brings a rare blend of grounded insight and compassionate strategy. He supports clients in exploring emotional patterns, releasing guilt, and reconnecting with their needs and voice. He works exceptionally well with those who’ve felt “too responsible,” “too sensitive,” or “too much.”
Clients describe Michael’s presence as steady, validating, and deeply safe. His coaching helps people move out of over-functioning and into relationships that feel honest, secure, and mutual.
Michael joined Un-Enmesh to help others create emotional lives they don’t have to escape from. He believes transformation begins when you reclaim your story—and live from a place of clarity, truth, and self-respect.
Our Philosophy
Healing begins with honesty: Something needs to change. We won’t promise quick fixes. But we will walk with you as you:
- Reconnect with your truth.
- Learn to trust yourself again.
- Create relationships rooted in mutual respect.
- Finally, feel safe in your own body and mind.
This is a collaborative healing space. We don’t lead from above; we walk beside you.
